My Turkey Dinner

So, we were at Dan's parents' house for Turkey Day, and it was, as usual, interesting. It was a small group for dinner, since Dan's one brother and his wife and child were at the wife's parents' for dinner. I guess as usual I said to much, b/c once again my FIL said something to me to reiterate the fact that he really doesn't like me, or think I am fit to be married to his son. Which is kind of funny, b/c he barely says two words to his son. Anyway, we were talking about certain traits a man can have, such as being set in their ways and not wanting to try anything new, and I merely said, "Dan's not like that. I lucked out." Which I did. And my wonderful, loving FIL says, "Yes, you did." Now, I didn't really know if he had said yes I did, or I didn't, so I asked him. I said, "Did you say I did or I didn't?" He goes, "I said you did. Why would I lie?" And silence fell over the crowd. I really just wanted my hubby to say, "I did, too." But he didn't. He doesn't make it a habit of standing up to his dad when he's been a real asshole. Or any other time, really. I guess he doesn't think like I do, but it would have been nice for someone to say. So, I said it, quietly, and looked at Dan and told him, also quietly, that it would be nice for him to say he lucked out as well. After dinner, and after a few not-so-happy looks in Dan's direction, he told me he was sorry, that he loves me, and he does think he's lucky to have me. That's great, but I really wanted his FATHER to hear those words. Now I just feel like the time that has gone by since the rough start we had with his family never made a difference. I still feel like I'm sitting there, in front of his parents, on trial, asking why they don't think I am good enough for Dan, and his father actually coming back with an answer. But that's a whole other story. And just so you all know, I never did anything to deserve this treatment. And I have about had it.